Musings from the CU Suite

Written by Anthony Demangone

Folks know that I write this blog, so it isn't uncommon to receive a nice note from someone with a link to an interesting article. 

This might interest you, they'll say. 

This past week, more than five people sent me a link to this piece by Dan Rockwell, also known as "The Leadership Freak." 

That tends to get your attention. 

Dan counsels all of us, that as leaders, sometimes we need to do less. We need ot help less, and allow those we work with to struggle, learn and achieve on their own. In Dan's own words:

Help done poorly creates dependency. But, help withheld seems disconnected or cold.

Leaders who say, “How can I help,” connect, change attitudes, and move agendas forward. But, help that weakens teams hurts organizations.

Over-helpful leaders frustrate teams.

Help done well strengthens.

Help done poorly weakens.

Dan goes on to list 16 ways to help less.  Sounds strange, doesn't it?  Not until you read them.

2. Get them started and step away. “Give me a call if you need something else.”

8.  Don’t be the go to guy. Needy leaders need to be needed. “Who on our team has done this before?”

3.  Pause. Resist the urge to offer your solution, even if only for a minute.

Looking back on my life, some of my best learning moments were times when I was on my own. Someone could have shown me the way, but forcing myself through the tall grass taught me lessons in a way that stayed with me. I struggle in this area now, because I too often try to give my two cents. I try to add value. Dan reminded me today that in the long run, that's not always wise. 

Today's challenge.  Read Dan's piece before a meeting and see if you can sit back and help less. You might be helping everyone more in the long run. 

Have a great weekend, everyone.